The Patio Expert Pages

Professionals understand that husband or wife beating is one of the worst situations that can arise. Police see such issues much more frequently than once a day They will tell you that more often than not, such troubles lead to the end of one or both partners. An unfortunate truth is that more relationships are ended with a verbal battle than at the end of a knife or gun.

The thing most people fail to realize is that the vast majority of relationship damages are not caused by physical weapons or violence. The damage done without guns and knives kills more relationships than that done with physical violence. And, just what exactly, are these weapons?

Words!

One of my favorites is an old song by the band, INXS. It is called, "The Devil Inside. It is about human frailties and says it better than I ever could! For example, the lines, "Words as weapons sharper than knives. Makes you wonder how the other half die." This particular part of the song referred to a woman, but it just as well apply to a man.

Most of us heard way to many times when we were growing up "Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me." While that is certainly a mindset we should all strive for, it is rarely the truth. Words hurt more people than any weapon ever created by us. The problem is that many people shoot off their mouths when they feel slighted in some way, spraying toxic verbal bullets that they can never take back.

There is an old saying that you can never un-ring a bell once it's rung. The same is true for words. Once you let out the toxic barrage, you can never take it back. Apologies are just bandaids on the damage done. The cuts on your partner may not be as visible as those produced by a knife, but they are likely to be every bit as deep!